Im just different

So just yesterday, one of my realky close friends suddenly said that I was very laid back....in terms of appearance and attire.

Then proceeded to ask me if I was worried about that...

Basically I know he's thinking about my possibly of finding someone in the future. And that my appearance would hinder me finding someone...

I get what he meant..but I guess I felt abit dissappointed that he would say that.

Because it felt that it's not enough to be me..and that  would need to dress up in order to attract the other gender.

The other bulk of disappointment is that it is true. we live in a world where first impressions make so much of difference that Im almost worried that thats really how we live by. We as humans should actually be smarter than that.

Personally, much as yes the leaner and fitter versions of the male species is more attractive. yet what I look for in a guy is the humour and character and dreams. And love...

It is almost saddening if the male gender doesnt likewise think the same...
The heart is in the wrong place. :/

Yes dissappointed... in humans in general. We have stooped so low...

As for me, I do feel the loneliness and yes I do wanna find someone. But Im not going to dressup to attract the other gender. I would dress up on my own terms..because I feel like it. Because at times, I do feel like wearing a dress or letting my hair down or putting on eyeliner. bla bla bla

But not to attract the other gender.

when this friend of mine said that if I dress up onstage, I might be able to attract some guys.
My response was, do you think I would go for those?

:/

Maybe I'm the kind of girl who would like to (assuming that Im already at a party) sit in a corner with a book or just people-watch. And maybe out there is a guy who is not into all the pretty ones who are up and dancing or talking to other guys. And maybe..just maybe..this guy would see me in the corner and decide that its worth spending time with this one coz she seems like the kind who wont get too carried away with all the razzle dazzle of the party. Maybe despite her being in the corner, shes actually got a smart head on her shoulders and a wicked sense of humour...Maybe I should talk to her.

And if that's so, then I rather this guy than the others because at least I know that he could possibly be different from the other guys in the room.

I dont know why Ive gotten so emotional about it haha but I guess I am.

As for this friend of mine... he's a nice guy and all but somehow, by this conversation, I have an idea of how he is. And its sorta changed my perception of him. He's still a dear friend. I sorta hope that he will eventually change that mindset. And maybe hopefully he will find the right kind of girl to help him do so.

God Bless